inappropriateeuphemism:

I’m going through my likes to trim it down (~500 rn!) and found this, so queing it up again.

lismore haul

priveting:

A New Friend by unterihremkissen on Flickr.

mo

gilliansanderson:

when you do all of the work for a “group” project

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satyrette:

please populate all video games with characters that make nerd ass gamer dudes angry and uncomfortable

mightier:

cyclamen
Fourth of the set and almost halfway through!  Those flowers were really hard to draw.  @v@;;

Also, all HQ charms are available on the store for preorder!  I’ve had a few people ask me when they would be in and the answer is mid-September, but if you don’t want to risk your favorite being sold out, now’s the time!  They won’t be restocked online again until the end of the year.

unclothedqueer:

rly cool thing to do: train yourself to have they/them be your reflexive go-to pronoun 

you’d better run

lalondes:

frankly i am SICK of how much our society ignores skinny women. when was the last time you saw a skinny woman on the cover of a magazine? or as the lead on a tv show? in a movie? and on top of that indignity we now have HATE CRIMINALS like nicki minaj and meghan trainor singing about “skinny bitches” like skinny women don’t suffer enough every day in this piss world… how come there are no skinny disney princesses… where are the skinny supermodels…

lalondes:

frankly i am SICK of how much our society ignores skinny women. when was the last time you saw a skinny woman on the cover of a magazine? or as the lead on a tv show? in a movie? and on top of that indignity we now have HATE CRIMINALS like nicki minaj and meghan trainor singing about “skinny bitches” like skinny women don’t suffer enough every day in this piss world… how come there are no skinny disney princesses… where are the skinny supermodels…

cisandhetphobia:

Dear fat girls wearing crop tops: please. Continue. Don’t let anyone tell you you can’t. You’re so fucking cute!!! You look absolutely fabulous, if I might add, and your self worth isn’t determined on how men see you.

I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.

Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”

#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward

P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”

(via startrekrenegades)

animeliberationfront:

I literally overcame self esteem issues by making ironically over-arrogant claims because even if you’re joking about something a lot you start to believe it and that can totally work in a good way if you let it

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